Judgments, Stories and Love

Well, I did it. I spent an hour today being interviewed about love in business. I didn’t know what to expect, which was good. The conversation was easy and my decision to bring together love and the workplace was reconfirmed.

The challenges I have, whether they are with relationships or self-worth or trust or finding satisfaction are life issues. They do not live just at home or just at work. If business leaders begin to understand this basic truth, they may become more open to engaging each person in their organization holistically and not through the narrow lens of worker. This almost 2 dimensional  perspective deprives the leader of seeing the true value each person is ready to offer.

I now see clearly that my first step in bringing love into business is to continue to chip away at places where I don’t experience love. What judgments do I have? Tomorrow, I’m going to record every judgment I have. I’m a bit concerned about this commitment. I know that I still judge things. I may not judge people so much, but I still have a grand time comparing things, which is a form of judgment. Like when I see a house that is in disrepair. Often, I will have an automatic judgement of the house, such as I don’t like the way this house looks, particularly when compared to the house across the street.

To raise the stakes even more, I’m also going to note when I fall in to stories about things. I recently saw a notice by one of our town’s folks that they needed to move out of their house quickly. My automatic story machine decided their house was in foreclosure and they were in a time of real hardship. A few days later, I learned the reason they were moving had nothing to do with my story.

Judgments and stories separate me from you. I know I don’t want to feel separated from those around me, and I know they don’t want to feel separate either. Yet, that is often our shared experience. Any separation inhibits my ability to feel love. So, tomorrow, I will chip away at what inhibits me from feeling love and let you know what I discover.

Author: Thomas White

Over the past thirty-five years, Thomas White has created and led private and public organizations that initiated breakthroughs in areas as diverse as computer software, publishing, printing, market research, leadership development and organizational change. The common ingredients in his success are simple. He looked beyond the limitations that others believed and found real solutions to needs that business leaders have. He attracted the best talent to translate these innovative solutions into practical products and services that were of high value to customers. He created cultures where people love what they do, work at their best and produce extraordinary results. In addition to his role as a business leader, Thomas has been a pioneer and inventor of technologies in the computer-networking field. He is a patent holder for innovations in business process and workflow technology. As part of his passion for educating others about the interface of human and computer systems, he was the co-author of “New Tools for New Times, The Workflow Paradigm”. He has also written articles for numerous publications. In 2001, he turned his attention from leading companies to supporting leadership teams in creating organizations of excellence. After many years of being a part of the machine of change, Thomas recognized that business is the most powerful force in the world. It has a major impact on public policy and governments everywhere. It is a key influence on how we use our resources and sets an example of the values that shape communities from local to global. He formed the consulting firm of Profoundly Simple to be a guide for exemplary leaders - leaders who wisely uses the power they are entrusted with to serve their constituencies first and themselves second; leaders who know that it is good business to treat people with respect, honor the environment and act with impeccable integrity – leaders who inspire greatness in those around them and by doing so create great organizations that are notable examples of success. Feeling the itch to get back into the game again, Thomas joined with two long time friends, to start the C-Suite Network. This network of business leaders offers an online network, events, services, and insights to its 500,000 member community. In addition, the C-Suite Network produces and distributes television and radio content to an audience of over 5M per month

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