What do you do when you get lost?

It seems to happen every day. I have the feeling of being lost. Uncertainty creeps in, and I lose touch with my inner rudder. Sometimes, it shows up as confusion and at other times, I feel overwhelmed. I may feel physically tired or emotionally grumpy. My “tells” let me know that I’m teetering on the brink of going off in to the weeds.

From my work, I know many experience this. They are unaware, and only after being lost for a while, do they realize that something’s out of sync. Then their own inner programing kicks in and they either feel upset or paralyzed, or get into gear to get back into their center.

There is a simple way to get back in the game, so to speak. When I remember, then I follow this practice, and the wheels starting turning again and the inner humming of contentment returns.

“What is this simple practice?”, you ask.

  1. The first step is to recognize that something’s off. I mentioned my own signs. You know what yours are because you experience them often. Every hour, check in and ask, “How is my body?”. If the response is, “Everything’s great.” and that feels right, then all systems are go. If on the other hand, you either don’t feel any response to the question, or you feel that something’s off, it’s critical that you stop whatever you are doing and go to step 2.
  1. Now that you know something’s amiss, you can begin to listen to the inner voice. We all know this voice that tells us something’s wrong like “you’re not good enough” or “that person doesn’t like you” or “wow, did you screw up”.

I call this the voice of distraction. Listen to it, without allowing yourself to be carried away by its message. This requires your full attention. If you deny the voice, then it just waits for another opportunity to show up and usually much louder. Allow the voice to have its say, without reacting to what’s said (this is the tricky part – for we are programed to either agree with or resist the voice), then something truly amazing takes place.  Whatever was distracting you falls away. This may seem counter-intuitive, but it really works.

Now reconnect with what your intention for the day was. If that still feels like your right course, get back on track. Sometimes, you realize that it’s time to move on to something else. So do that.

Three simple steps and you can recover so much lost time and really lower your frustration. The key is to keep checking in with your body and then remember to follow the steps.

Let me know how this helps you.


Author: Thomas White

Over the past thirty-five years, Thomas White has created and led private and public organizations that initiated breakthroughs in areas as diverse as computer software, publishing, printing, market research, leadership development and organizational change. The common ingredients in his success are simple. He looked beyond the limitations that others believed and found real solutions to needs that business leaders have. He attracted the best talent to translate these innovative solutions into practical products and services that were of high value to customers. He created cultures where people love what they do, work at their best and produce extraordinary results. In addition to his role as a business leader, Thomas has been a pioneer and inventor of technologies in the computer-networking field. He is a patent holder for innovations in business process and workflow technology. As part of his passion for educating others about the interface of human and computer systems, he was the co-author of “New Tools for New Times, The Workflow Paradigm”. He has also written articles for numerous publications. In 2001, he turned his attention from leading companies to supporting leadership teams in creating organizations of excellence. After many years of being a part of the machine of change, Thomas recognized that business is the most powerful force in the world. It has a major impact on public policy and governments everywhere. It is a key influence on how we use our resources and sets an example of the values that shape communities from local to global. He formed the consulting firm of Profoundly Simple to be a guide for exemplary leaders - leaders who wisely uses the power they are entrusted with to serve their constituencies first and themselves second; leaders who know that it is good business to treat people with respect, honor the environment and act with impeccable integrity – leaders who inspire greatness in those around them and by doing so create great organizations that are notable examples of success. Feeling the itch to get back into the game again, Thomas joined with two long time friends, to start the C-Suite Network. This network of business leaders offers an online network, events, services, and insights to its 500,000 member community. In addition, the C-Suite Network produces and distributes television and radio content to an audience of over 5M per month

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