Just One More Thing!

Recently, I was reminded by my wife that one of my greatest challenges comes from pretending to be who I already am because I forget who I am.

Almost sounds like double-talk doesn’t it? What she was pointing out was that I have a whole lot of beliefs about who I am not that obscure seeing myself clearly. The consequences run the gambit from arrogance, to false humility, to giving away my talents to prove I have value.

Part of these phenomena is that I feel that who I am isn’t enough. You know, not smart enough, talented enough, rich enough, connected enough, handsome enough. What I’m actually putting my attention on is who I am not. It leads to behavior I call the “just one more thing”.

Say that I feel I am not quite talented enough to do the work that I love. I believe that if I acquire this one more skill, I will fill the missing hole and then be fully qualified.  Similarly, I could find myself feeling that I’m not a great husband, and this might lead my wife to want to check out (not what she ever thinks). The “just one more thing” behavior encourages me to engage in praise-worthy behavior for her to see what a great husband I am.

I know that the feeling of not being enough is something that most of us experience. We look around and compare ourselves to those we feel are better than us. This comparison leads to great suffering and an incorrect view of who we are. I unknowingly establish criteria of who I should be. These criteria become my standard view of the world as I consider my opinion of others and myself.

Extend this misunderstanding to the business world. I can easily see others as rivals because they posses some abilities I wish I had. Through my lens of self-deception, I never see the true picture. I make decisions from this distorted perspective and, more times than not, choose incorrectly.

The simple truth is that each of us has abilities and inner gifts that exceed anything we believe about ourselves. Not remembering or seeing this clearly limits what is possible and leads to relationships that are not fulfilling, work that is unsatisfying and a life that is far less than what it could be.

Today, I walk outside, into the sunny afternoon not worrying about the potential of frost that will nip the new buds. I walk outside simply appreciating the amazing day today is. I also remember the amazing person who is experiencing this day and remember there is never a need for “just one more thing”.

Until tomorrow,

Author: Thomas White

Over the past thirty-five years, Thomas White has created and led private and public organizations that initiated breakthroughs in areas as diverse as computer software, publishing, printing, market research, leadership development and organizational change. The common ingredients in his success are simple. He looked beyond the limitations that others believed and found real solutions to needs that business leaders have. He attracted the best talent to translate these innovative solutions into practical products and services that were of high value to customers. He created cultures where people love what they do, work at their best and produce extraordinary results. In addition to his role as a business leader, Thomas has been a pioneer and inventor of technologies in the computer-networking field. He is a patent holder for innovations in business process and workflow technology. As part of his passion for educating others about the interface of human and computer systems, he was the co-author of “New Tools for New Times, The Workflow Paradigm”. He has also written articles for numerous publications. In 2001, he turned his attention from leading companies to supporting leadership teams in creating organizations of excellence. After many years of being a part of the machine of change, Thomas recognized that business is the most powerful force in the world. It has a major impact on public policy and governments everywhere. It is a key influence on how we use our resources and sets an example of the values that shape communities from local to global. He formed the consulting firm of Profoundly Simple to be a guide for exemplary leaders - leaders who wisely uses the power they are entrusted with to serve their constituencies first and themselves second; leaders who know that it is good business to treat people with respect, honor the environment and act with impeccable integrity – leaders who inspire greatness in those around them and by doing so create great organizations that are notable examples of success. Feeling the itch to get back into the game again, Thomas joined with two long time friends, to start the C-Suite Network. This network of business leaders offers an online network, events, services, and insights to its 500,000 member community. In addition, the C-Suite Network produces and distributes television and radio content to an audience of over 5M per month

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