A Spider and Love


One of the most joyful aspects of my life is assisting people in finding their inner wisdom and from this wisdom uncovering their power of creation. One way that I provide this support is through regular phone conversations where we unravel the mysteries from their current life experiences.

As I was reflecting on the end of this year and my gratitude for my life’s work, I was reminded of the impact of this work in ways that are unanticipated. One story came to mind and I wanted to share it with you.
Several years ago, I was having a phone conversation with Pete – one of the people I support. We were talking about a challenge he was having in his job with some of the people who reported to him. He was complaining about some of the things that they were not doing up to his standards.

As we were talking, I walked from my office to the porch on our home to connect with the fresh air and animals that filled our world. As Pete was emphasizing again his frustration, I looked up and saw a giant spider that was just completing a beautiful web. I could feel that the real issue he was having was that he didn’t like what he was seeing in others because he didn’t like these behaviors in himself.

When I find this happening in me, I know that I have not accepted myself as I am, and in that state I can’t love myself either. Until I embrace all of me, I will be unable to fully love others or myself.

I mentioned to Pete that I had seen this spider. I reminded him that in some Native American cultures, the spider represents the energy of grandmother. Grandmothers in most traditions are linked to unconditional love. As we spoke about this, I invited Pete to feel the acceptance that the grandmother energy brings. As he did, he was able to see that he was really angry with himself, and in that acceptance all his rancor dissolved.

Later, I was visiting with Pete and he told me about an experience his wife had that was an outcome of our conversation. Pete’s wife is a middle school teacher. One day she noticed that some of the students were unsettled. They told her that they had discovered a spider in the classroom. Some of the boys wanted to immediately kill it. Pete’s wife stopped them and told them that one of her husband’s teachers had told him about how in some Native American cultures the spider was a symbol of grandmother. The energy in the room immediately shifted. Instead of wanting to kill this spider, the boys wanted to carefully move the spider out of the classroom to a safe place.

Having these boys have a moment of feeling the grandmother spirit and choosing to honor life rather than extinguish it inspires me to continue, fills me with gratitude, and gives me hope for a more loving new year.

Until later


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Author: Thomas White

Over the past thirty-five years, Thomas White has created and led private and public organizations that initiated breakthroughs in areas as diverse as computer software, publishing, printing, market research, leadership development and organizational change. The common ingredients in his success are simple. He looked beyond the limitations that others believed and found real solutions to needs that business leaders have. He attracted the best talent to translate these innovative solutions into practical products and services that were of high value to customers. He created cultures where people love what they do, work at their best and produce extraordinary results. In addition to his role as a business leader, Thomas has been a pioneer and inventor of technologies in the computer-networking field. He is a patent holder for innovations in business process and workflow technology. As part of his passion for educating others about the interface of human and computer systems, he was the co-author of “New Tools for New Times, The Workflow Paradigm”. He has also written articles for numerous publications. In 2001, he turned his attention from leading companies to supporting leadership teams in creating organizations of excellence. After many years of being a part of the machine of change, Thomas recognized that business is the most powerful force in the world. It has a major impact on public policy and governments everywhere. It is a key influence on how we use our resources and sets an example of the values that shape communities from local to global. He formed the consulting firm of Profoundly Simple to be a guide for exemplary leaders - leaders who wisely uses the power they are entrusted with to serve their constituencies first and themselves second; leaders who know that it is good business to treat people with respect, honor the environment and act with impeccable integrity – leaders who inspire greatness in those around them and by doing so create great organizations that are notable examples of success. Feeling the itch to get back into the game again, Thomas joined with two long time friends, to start the C-Suite Network. This network of business leaders offers an online network, events, services, and insights to its 500,000 member community. In addition, the C-Suite Network produces and distributes television and radio content to an audience of over 5M per month

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