Remember I chose this


As I was being “tortured” by a unstoppable crying fit of our three-year old, I was thinking (that can really be a problem). I was thinking of how things might have been different. Here I am, 59 years old, and I having to deal with this kind of situation. Just as I was about to go further into this trail of thought, I recognized what was happening. I was allowing myself to forget my choices.

When my wife and I were considering whether we wanted to have children (we each had two children by previous marriages), we were very deliberate. We felt that we were called to be parents together. For myself, I knew that I wanted to learn again what it was to be a parent (when my older children were growing up, I was busy with my career and work was a greater priority than family). I also knew I would learn so much about myself and being human from witnessing these beings as they developed.

I knew when we made this choice that there would be days when it would be easy and days when it would seem challenging. That was a small price to pay for the amazing reward I would receive. As I was remembering my choice, I once again felt the joy of being with my son. I appreciated how it must feel for him when his world seems out of control. I could identity with the desire to just cry.

As I started to write this Blog, I recognized the applicability of this lesson to so much of my life and the lives of the leaders I work with. How often, when things aren’t going the way that I would like, do I turn grumpy and lash out at other people? It is then that I forget the choice that I made to be a leader. I knew when I made that choice the kinds of days I would have and the challenges I would find.

Perhaps the most important experience I could never have when I am not remembering my choices is the feeling of gratitude. Sit for a moment and remember someone who has made a great contribution to your life. When you have a clear picture of them, feel your appreciation of them for whatever they have given you. As this feeling expands silently thank them for their gifts to you.

I find that when I remember this simple exercise at the end of the day, my sleep is much sounder and I wake up feeling rather cheery.

Until later,


Author: Thomas White

Over the past thirty-five years, Thomas White has created and led private and public organizations that initiated breakthroughs in areas as diverse as computer software, publishing, printing, market research, leadership development and organizational change. The common ingredients in his success are simple. He looked beyond the limitations that others believed and found real solutions to needs that business leaders have. He attracted the best talent to translate these innovative solutions into practical products and services that were of high value to customers. He created cultures where people love what they do, work at their best and produce extraordinary results. In addition to his role as a business leader, Thomas has been a pioneer and inventor of technologies in the computer-networking field. He is a patent holder for innovations in business process and workflow technology. As part of his passion for educating others about the interface of human and computer systems, he was the co-author of “New Tools for New Times, The Workflow Paradigm”. He has also written articles for numerous publications. In 2001, he turned his attention from leading companies to supporting leadership teams in creating organizations of excellence. After many years of being a part of the machine of change, Thomas recognized that business is the most powerful force in the world. It has a major impact on public policy and governments everywhere. It is a key influence on how we use our resources and sets an example of the values that shape communities from local to global. He formed the consulting firm of Profoundly Simple to be a guide for exemplary leaders - leaders who wisely uses the power they are entrusted with to serve their constituencies first and themselves second; leaders who know that it is good business to treat people with respect, honor the environment and act with impeccable integrity – leaders who inspire greatness in those around them and by doing so create great organizations that are notable examples of success. Feeling the itch to get back into the game again, Thomas joined with two long time friends, to start the C-Suite Network. This network of business leaders offers an online network, events, services, and insights to its 500,000 member community. In addition, the C-Suite Network produces and distributes television and radio content to an audience of over 5M per month

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