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Denial and other things I have in Common with Richard Nixon

This morning I was reading an opinion piece in the Washington Post by Bob Woodward and Carl Bernstein. In their first joint byline in 36 years, these writers made famous by the Watergate scandal, tell a much deeper story of Watergate in 40 Years after Watergate, Nixon was far worse than we thought.

SInce their early reporting and book, All the President’s Men, so much more is known about what actually happened in the Nixon White House. With released tapes of conversations in the oval office, candid interviews and books by many of the key players and internal memos and other documents, the depth of the activities of the President and his team seem to be the stuff of unbelievable fiction.

Clearly the President engaged in serious illegal activity. This activity was motivated by his fears. He was afraid he wouldn’t be re-elected and would do anything to knock out any Democratic challengers. This was only the tip of the iceberg. The article points out multiple fronts where Nixon employed illegal activity to exert his control over what was important to him from the prosecution of the Vietnam War to the liberal media to his war against the democrats.

Nixon’s undoing came from his hatred of perceived opponents. He felt anyone who challenged his programs, points of view or policies was an enemy. It appears Nixon felt he could employ any device he deemed necessary to diminish, discredit or destroy the enemy’s creditability.

As I was reading this article, I reflected on feelings of anger I had when I felt someone betrayed me. At one time, as the CEO of a technology company, a good friend who worked at the company went to the chairman and said he felt I was putting the company at risk by not paying enough attention to one of our partners. I was furious. How could he! I immediately began a “counter-attack”. I discredited his point of view and in short order fired him. My inner dialogue was, “Well I guess I have that handled.”

Turns out my friend was right. The partner was not given the support we promised. I made decisions to shift resources from his project without talking with him about my decision. I felt he would just have to roll with the punches. After all, he was supposed to be serving us. My arrogant perspective and denial led the partner to file an arbitration action against the company. It wasn’t until the arbitrator ruled on behalf of the partner that I took stock of the consequence of my actions.

I’m not sure if Richard Nixon ever looked deeply enough into his actions in the White House to see the impact of his denial and projected judgment on himself and others. In both his autobiography, RN, and his subsequent book, In the Arena, he continued to deny his involvement in many activities for which there are audiotapes of his complicity. In a now famous 1976 interview with David Frost, Nixon said, “I didn’t think of it as a coverup. I didn’t intend a coverup. Let me say, if I intended the coverup, believe me, I would have done it.” Yet over 40 people served prison time and Nixon relinquished the Presidency.

I wrote about denial last week. It is a constant companion when I am afraid of looking at myself without deception. It starts as an automatic reaction to the threat of exposure, and, if not corrected quickly, can lead me down the road of lies that are hard to retract and distrust that’s difficult to heal. It’s a good reminder to keep things clear and clean so that I don’t have to spend time clearing up the mess.

What do you work for?

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The answer to this question may be one of the most important clues to why life is either exactly what I want it to be, or not. This question has been one that I have come back to time after time, and I am back to it again.

I have been reading “An Open Life: Joseph Campbell in conversation with Michael Toms” (Michael Toms). I am a relative newcomer to the world of Joseph Campbell, although I have several of his books in my library (unread until now). In the introduction to this book, Toms speaks of his long friendship with Campbell and reveals a bit about his life. It is this introduction that stimulated me to reconsider the aforementioned question.

When I think about the question, “What do I work for?”, I find inspiration from Campbell’s life. He was a life-long proponent of “following your bliss”. Campbell points out that he had the belief early on that this was the way to live. Forty years after embracing this way of living, he reported that he was right. His life unfolded in ways unimaginable because he never wavered from what was calling to him as his “bliss”. In fact, he never let money be the guide for any decision he made. He felt that if you life fully alive, the money part would take care of itself.

I have said something like this to many who have participated in programs I have lead, however, I recognize that I don’t always live this way myself. It appears that Joseph Campbell made a decision early in his life to live simply. It was clear that this choice provided him with complete freedom to do whatever felt right for him. This included taking four years off to read when he was 30. Reading that, he felt, supported what he was most passionate about.

When I consider this example, I wonder, “what keeps me from embracing a life of simplicity and joy?” There are a few immediate answers. The first is that I have become attached to a “life-style”. Much of the trappings that surround me as I write are not critical to my joy or vital to take care of the things that are important to me. So why are they here? When I build my place of work or homestead, I follow a pattern. This pattern is chosen by me, mostly unconsciously, based upon what others either said or what I felt they would think of me. This creates a life-long experience of being on a perpetual treadmill.

Well… if I am so clear, then why do I continue living the way that I do? Good question, and one that my wife and I are exploring now. We have started with the process of eliminating what is not important in our home. We have not completed this and I expect we will early in the new year. We are also looking at how we “earn a living”, how we take care of the essential needs of our family (food, shelter, clothing), and how we can move away from dependence on goods and services that are not consistent with our values.

Now to the second answer to the question “what keeps me from embracing a life of simplicity and joy?” That answer is fear! I am afraid of the change I see is required to simplify and live a life more balanced. A life filled with freedom and fulfillment. This fear clouds many of my decisions, and on occasion leads to paralysis. How am I engaging this? My wife and I are tackling this together. We both see the effects of the “fear of the unknown” and are supporting each other when the fear overtakes us.

As we walk into the new year together, we are beginning to feel a change coming, and this has filled us with a sense of joy and excitement!

Until later,

Thomas

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